Preparing Heart and Home

March 28th, 2011 § 0 comments

“If you will prepare your heart and mind before your adoption, then you can avoid some of the disillusionment that many adoptive parents and children have experienced. Spend more time in prayer and take advantage of the wonderful resources that can help you understand your child’s special needs and the enormous amount of work that lies ahead. If you do, the challenges will be the same, but you will be less likely to be blindsided by them.” (Successful Adoption, A Guide for Christian Families)

Besides getting a crib and a few other baby things, thus far, we have been taking the advice of this book and have been focusing most of our time and energy preparing ourselves psychologically for the change that is to come by reading and through prayer.

We purchased this Adrian crib off of Kijiji for $250. With it's drop-side and wheels it will be perfect to pull up close to our bed.

In our reading we keep coming across phrases like  “expect the unexpected,” “be flexible” and “don’t assume it will be love at first sight.” We’ve been warned about the exhaustion and feeling like everything is “out of control” that we will experience post-adoption — things any new parent goes though. But, we’ve also been made aware of other issues that we will need to consider like jet lag, racial issues, language barriers and health concerns such as lice and scabies that are often contracted at orphanages. That’s not to say the huge emotional highs and lows we will go through as we meet our child for the first time and learn to bond to them.

My adoption reading list (and more)

Although we don’t know if our baby is born yet or if its birthmother is still doing a full on waddle,  we do know that this is a crucial time for babyzooks development. We have been covering the birthmother (and/or father) with prayer for protection, God’s presence and peace. Here is a passage I keep pondering:

“I am your Creator.
You were in my care
even before you were born…
don’t be terrified!
You are my chosen servant,
my very favourite. I will bless the thirsty land
by sending streams of water;
I will bless your descendants
by giving them my Spirit.
They will spring up like grass or like willow trees
near flowing streams.
They will worship me
and become my people.
They will write my name
on the back of their hands.
Isaiah 44:2-5

Now that the hump of paperwork is done — we can have some fun. In just a couple weeks our dossier will be complete and we can send it to Congo whereas we will then be matched with a child (our referral) within 0-3 months and finally be able to put a face to this place in our hearts!

mini-me moccasins

 

This will also mean that I will be able to start shopping for gender specific baby gear. And all my girlfriends say, “Amen!”

§ 0 Responses to Preparing Heart and Home"

  • Robynn says:

    Amen!

  • Jess says:

    Just wanted to say hi- we are also adopting out of Congo using the same agency as you. We are filing our I600 this week for our two kids, but the process has gotten much longer, we probably won’t travel now to get them until September. I will be praying for your referrals to come! Our blog is http://www.nelson4to5.blogspot.com if you want to follow along

  • Nice bed! And good book selections. I also recommend the Connected Child, and Toddler Adoption: the Weaver’s Craft. 🙂

    I just wanted to say hi and connect… My hubbie and I have decided to move forward with our Congo adoption (through Choices, or independantly, depending how it turns out.) All the best in your journey! LEt’s keep in touch!

    “Nicky”

    • thezooks says:

      Thanks Nicky! It’s even called the “Congo” bed. Little did we know when we purchased it that we would actually be going to Congo one day! Now I wonder if we should have went with the king size….

      That’s so exciting that you are going forward with the Congo adoption. It’s nice to finally connect with a fellow Canadian adopting from DRC! Congrats and god speed!!!

      Liz

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